It happens to us all – you’re sitting there watching your friends or family totally relaxed and having fun, so you whip out a camera to capture the moment and suddenly everyone becomes stiff and self conscious. It’s so frustrating and feels unavoidable. Yet there are simple ways to capture natural photos.
My first piece of advice is to be at ease with your camera – let people know you have it with you and that you mean to take some pictures. Don’t wield it like a weapon but make sure that everyone know it’s there.
One of the things that makes people feel so self conscious about having their photo taken, is not knowing what to do with themselves. This is where you come into things – yes you! – you’re not just there to point the camera and shoot, you need to be involved. A little bit of direction is a real help when someone is ill at ease, so don’t be afraid to direct the action (but not too much).
When you point a camera at someone their first instinct is to stand up straight and grimace, which rarely looks good, so it’s up to you to guide people by telling them to lean against a wall, put their hands in their pockets, even to look away from the camera at someone else. Some people hate having their photo taken so much that the best way to get a good shot of them is not to make them look into the lens but to distract their attention with another subject – preferably one within the frame. Far from spoiling an image by having subjects who aren’t looking at the camera, sometimes the best shots are about the interactions going on within the frame.

Two or more people in a photo will be much more relaxed than just one, as everyone is made more confident by the others around them. Equally, if a single subject has something to hide behind/lean against, they don’t feel so ‘naked’ in front of the lens.

Natural posing isn’t a matter of one shot and it’s over, it may take more than one photo to get that relaxed stance you’re after. Once the initial shot is taken, your subject will relax, which is just the time to take that sneaky second shot!
So, to recap, the key to natural posing is:
Be at ease with your camera and yourself, and your subject will trust you
Be patient and wait for moment to shoot, and when it comes, shoot lots
Watch for interactions between your subjects
Give your subject something to do, or they’ll feel very uncomfortable
Don’t be afraid to be a little bit bossy